🕯️ Death Midwifery &
Soulful End-of-Life Support
💜 Helping You Honor
the Journey of Life’s Final Chapter
Death is sacred — as sacred as birth.
It invites us to face the mystery of life with open eyes and an open heart.
We honor the beginning of life with reverence, love, and presence.
We can do the same at the end.
As a certified Death Midwife, I hold space for the soul to leave the body
just as midwives hold space for the soul to arrive.
It’s one of life’s greatest privileges — to sit with someone as they take their final breath.
To offer presence.
To wait patiently.
To witness the sacred.
With over 20 years of experience — including training caregivers across the country as a National Trainer for The Twilight Brigade — I’ve seen how healing, graceful, and even beautiful this final passage can be.
Whether you're supporting a dying loved one, preparing for your own transition, or walking through grief — you don’t have to do it alone.
I’m here to walk with you — through the mystery, the mess, and the meaning — with reverence, compassion, and light.
Because every life — and every death — deserves to be honored with dignity and love.
💫 How I Can Soulfully Guide you in
Navigating the End-of-Life Journey
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End-of-Life Planning
Guidance and heart-centered support as you prepare emotionally, spiritually, and logistically for the final chapter of life.
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Family Support & Caregiver Guidance
Gentle, soulful coaching for families navigating decisions, fears, and communication around death and dying.
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Sacred Vigil & Bedside Support
I sit bedside with the dying, holding sacred space with tenderness and reverence through their final breaths.
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Celebration of Life Ceremony
Let’s create a loving, meaningful goodbye that honors their legacy and uplifts the hearts of those who remain.
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Grief & Bereavement Integration
Support for walking through grief, honoring loss, and finding meaning in the mourning process.
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Sacred Space Creation
From altars to intention-setting, I help create sacred environments that support a peaceful, beautiful transition.
Q: What’s the difference between a Medical Advance Directive and a Spiritual Advance Directive
— and do I need both?
A: Yes — they’re different, and you need both.
A Medical Advance Directive is a legal document that outlines your choices for medical care if you’re unable to speak for yourself. It tells doctors what you want — or don’t want — when it comes to things like resuscitation, life support, or feeding tubes. Every state has different requirements, so make sure you check with your particular state and what they need.
But that’s only part of the story.
A Spiritual Advance Directive speaks to your soul.
It includes your wishes for emotional and spiritual care at the end of life — the kind of environment you want, the people you’d like nearby, music, prayers, rituals, closure, and how you want to feel as you transition. It’s your personal expression of peace, meaning, and dignity.
The medical directive protects your body.
The spiritual directive honors your spirit.
Creating both is one of the greatest gifts you can offer yourself and your loved ones.
Don't leave it up to guesswork — let your voice be known, all the way through the final breath.
✍️ Spiritual Advance Directive,
Ethical Wills & Life Review
Begin the sacred process of reflecting on the life you’ve lived
— and the legacy you wish to leave.
Whether you’re preparing your own Spiritual Advance Directive,
writing an Ethical Will, crafting a Eulogy, or recording a meaningful Life Review, these services help you express your values, stories, and wishes with clarity, love, and dignity.
We spend much of our lives preparing for joyful milestones
— birthdays, weddings, new beginnings
— but rarely do we prepare for life’s final chapter with the same love and care.
Whether you’re facing a diagnosis, caring for a loved one, or simply wanting to ensure your sacred wishes are honored, this Spiritual Advance Directive
invites you to reflect on what truly matters… with tenderness, courage, and peace.
✨ Click below to begin the journey inward.
These guided offerings can bring comfort, healing, and purpose
— for yourself and for those you love.
✅ Available as one-on-one sessions, downloadable tools, or as part of your personalized end-of-life support journey.
Begin the sacred process of reflecting on the life you’ve lived
— and the legacy you wish to leave...
✍️ Ethical Will & Eulogy Writing
Leave a legacy of love, not just a legal record.
Your story matters
— not just the facts of your life, but the meaning,
values, and memories that shaped your journey.
Whether you're writing an Ethical Will to share your heart and values
with your loved ones, or composing a Living Eulogy as a celebration of your life while you're still here, I guide you with tenderness and clarity.
❤️ Private sessions and group workshops available.
💬 Words from the Heart
“Shelley helped us turn one of the hardest times of our lives into something sacred and unforgettable. Her presence was warm, calming, and filled with love.”
— Lisa M., daughter of a hospice patient
“I didn’t know how to navigate my mom’s final days. Shelley gave us guidance, comfort, and a sense of peace that we didn’t even know was possible.”
— David R., caregiver
“Her ability to hold space during the most vulnerable moments is truly a gift. We felt supported, honored, and cared for in every way.”
— Jenna S., hospice nurse
💕A Gratitude Letter from Kris...💕
"I am so grateful to you, Shelley, for all that you did for our family as we prepared for the unfathomable reality that my sister, Nancy, my son’s aunt, was coming to the end of life.
I will never be able to thank you enough for everything you did to help Nanc make the transition in such a sacred and beautiful way.
You and she had been dear friends for a very long time but the support you gave her was above and beyond friendship. Really, without you I don’t know how we would have handled any of it….what we would have done.
You were our beacon of light and love. Every time I tell the story of how you prepared her I am more aware of how you showed up for,
and helped prepare, us all.
I can still hear you say, “We’re gonna love you up, Nanc, we’re gonna love you up!” Her face glowed when you said that. You gave her a safe place by surrounding her with love and by letting her know you were doing the same for her greatest treasures, her nephew and me.
Words can never express what a wonderful gift you gave the three of us. Words can never express what a wonderful gift you are! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. ‘Love you in a big way, Shelley,’ as Nanc would say, ‘love you in a big way!"
💕Kris💕
💫 Frequently Asked Questions
What is a death midwife?
A death midwife provides emotional, spiritual, and practical support to the dying and their loved ones. I help create a sacred space for transition, honoring the journey with compassion and care.
When do I call someone like you?
Anytime you feel called. Whether you're preparing in advance or in the final days of a loved one’s life, I’m here to support you with grace and clarity.
Is this only for people who are actively dying?
Not at all. Many people reach out months or even years in advance to prepare consciously for the end of life.
Can you help us create a sacred space at home?
Yes. Whether it’s candles, music, or setting up a legacy altar, I’ll guide you in creating a space filled with love and intention.
How do you work with family members? Is this religious?
I offer compassionate presence and non denominational guidance before and after the death — including ceremony, emotional support, and tools for healing.
Do you work with hospice or other care teams?
Absolutely. I collaborate with hospice, palliative care teams, or caregivers to ensure that everyone is aligned and supported in honoring the final chapter.
Still Have Questions?
I’m here to help. Let’s connect and talk about what you need
“May this journey be filled with love, grace, and peace
— from the first breath to the last.”
Meet Shelley
Shelley Whizin is a transformational life coach, end-of-life educator, and certified death midwife who supports individuals and families through life’s most profound transitions — from living fully to dying consciously.
With decades of experience guiding people through emotional, spiritual, and existential turning points, Shelley brings deep compassion, practical wisdom, and soulful insight to those facing major life shifts — whether it’s the death of a loved one, the end of a marriage, a personal reinvention, or the sacred journey of preparing for one’s own passing.
She is the founder of Live & Die Happy Coaching, a unique approach that focuses on the human-to-human connection at the heart of every transformation. Shelley believes that how we live informs how we die — and that both can be infused with meaning, dignity, and even joy.
As a respected trainer, Shelley has educated hospice teams, caregivers, and families on how to create sacred, healing experiences at the end of life. She also coaches individuals who are not dying — but who feel called to live with more purpose, presence, and inner peace.
Whether she’s holding vigil at a bedside or helping someone reawaken their aliveness in everyday life, Shelley offers a rare combination of emotional depth, spiritual groundedness, and a loving sense of humor.
Her mission is to help people live well, love deeply, and leave this world at peace — while making every moment along the way count.
"It's your life. Enjoy the journey. And remember to bring love into everything you do...
and a lot of humor along the way!"
-Shelley Whizin
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